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Why our heart wants to pretend what we are not?

By ABIMANYU

 Disclaimer: All blogs under the topic "Let's speak our heart out" is soulful thoughts of the author himself.  No content  posted here is created with a intention to hurt anyone.  No content inactions log is promoted or copied

Here we go with a personnel topic and also another Question Blog- Why our heart wants to pretend what we are not?






If any chance you are looking for a one line answer, this is it - 

"To satisfy ourselves and at the same time to feel guilt \ happy inside" 
 
We get to feel insecure saying the truth and our mind is trained to be in comfort zone this may be the major reason and obviously our habitual actions are also liable for the cause.
If we dig deeper I would divide it into two faces - the positive face and the negative face





In this world there is no one who don't pretend, It is so true that all of us say lie, hide things ..etc from many people for many reasons. In some situation it is good to hold the truth to surpass the negativity and false actions of people, Obviously we would have experienced these moments in our life if not yet then more likely you would. Sometimes even holding the truth make us not affected from negative factors or it keep us moving in a positive way so yeah of course it has a positive face

FUN TIP 1: Most of us basically lie yeah that's ok if it is basic or fun.

Negative face is just the opposite of the above where we use our own emotions against "us". "guess what?" Down it goes

1)FEAR -                   Implies anxiety and usually loss of courage

2)ANXIETY -            A feeling of fear, dread, and uneasiness.

3)FRUSTRATION -  The prevention of the progress, success, or fulfilment of something.

4)RESENTMENT -   Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly

5)ANGER -                An emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong

These are the four emotions that people very often use to harm themselves miserably. Now I want you to know these emotions occurs mainly due to pretending something which is unreal. This way pretending not only has a positive face but also a negative face also.

Let us remember two things in our mind to knock down the negative one!

1) pretending things should never be a habit, as creating and deleting a habit is hard what we discussed in my last blog. 
2)storing more and more emotions in our heart is painful and harm us 

Situation where we want to pretend and not to pretend




Not to pretend - in relationship , whatever your past is never ditch the truth, even it feels horrible to let it out. Accept the shame, start building again you can do whatever you want. You should make sure what you really want is good and true before you jump into decision making.

Where you want to pretend is very simple do litle analysis if pretending makes a positive effect And where it feels okay to be unjust and when you don't feel the guilt of pretending instead you feel good then go for it.


I agree sometimes situations make it hard to say out the truth but it is great to be honest and genuine!.,

Let go the pain you suffer by spilling the truth out I know all of us might not have favorable situations but dear friends it is ok to wait for little longer for gaining strength and courage but it is not fair to pretend the truth for a while which eventually lasts forever and makes the one time pain to last forever.,




Remember, Life is short we are going to do nothing by pretending the false, let go all the nonsense it is ok to be blamed for saying the truth. it is proud to be genuine.

Well guys let me end this blog and as I spoke about truth and this series is all about speaking our heart out so hell ya I'm going to confess something that I do which is "I justify my answers is right, for fun", Although it is wrong, Sometimes I have enjoyed doing it and I feel that is one of the terrible thing I have done before.
Also also let's hear it from you if you want to get real bold I appreciate that, comment down or if it's private just shout in a free place confess to nature.

Ok from now on
NO MORE PRETENDING(which makes a negative effect)
NO MORE DRAMAS
NO MORE DITCHING
NO MORE FEELING LIKE A IDIOT
NO MORE SUFFERING INSIDE
NO MORE EGO'S
I KNOW MUCH MORE ETCS.. ARE THERE
STILL WE SHOULD END THIS 

FUN TIP 2: IT IS STILL OK TO PRETEND FOR GOOD!

So I am wondering can I ask my readers a fun favor ? and there it goes, yeah I want all of u guys to let the burden out to whomsoever it may concern, It may be your family or friends or whoever you are guilty of just go and simply tell them the truth and say "I Have Lied Before And Now I Just Want To Let You Know The Truth And I am So Sorry For My Behavior", which you have pretended for years or may be smaller time.

NO MATTER WHAT LET'S SPEAK OUR HEART OUT TO FEEL FREE AND FEEL GOOD !!!






END OF THE DAY YOUR ASSETS (after doing the above I suppose) :
1)YOU HAVE BEEN GENUINE 
2)YOU HAVE BEEN HONEST
3)YOU FEEL THE VIBE COMING IN
4)NO MORE GUILT
5)NO MORE TOXIC HABIT LOOP (CUZ YOU JUST BREAK IT BY DOING THIS)
 
 THIS IS PROBABLY GREAT ASSETS THAT A HUMAN SHOULD HOLD RATHER   THAN LAND, PROPERTY ETC..

I want all of us to grow
I want all of us to be just good
That's all of it 
Thank you for listening up guys! cheers!
Bye for now until I come up with a new topic on this blog "Let's speak our heart out"
Till then speak truth or At least we try
Do not forget to comment on confessions and let me know are you guys going to let your burden out.


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